gar · ru · lous [<L garrulus] adj excessively talkative, esp. about trivial things (The Scribner-Bantam English Dictionary)|
I hate it when I feel chained to someone just because they won't shut up. It's like being under a spell or commanded by an authority, or paralyzed or glued, or any number of things you either can't or should not try to escape from. And yet that's exactly what I want to do when some people start talking. I don't mean when I'm in a conversation where the give and take is freely chosen. Here, the empty space between each exchange is a decision to stay or stop.
No, I mean when someone simply will not stop the deluge of words flung out (at me, since I'm there). Whatever their motive, it comes across as a curse I can't break free of. It feels as if I would be the rude one to say, "Sorry, I'm done now. I'm leaving, you're boring me." So in not wanting to appear rude and admit to boredom, I have so often stayed. Which is ridiculous. But in facing this dilemma many times and hating it, I've changed. I've learned that it's all right to own myself, my reactions, and the things I feel, and to act on the presumption that I have as much right to simply leave or hang up the phone as the other person has to go on talking. I try to do it politely, but if I can't, then oh, well. If it comes to this, then who is being inconsiderate?